Boundaries are the way we teach people how to treat us. Whether it’s due to past trauma or something else, it can often be difficult for us to set and maintain boundaries.

However, they really are so important and truly an act of self-love.

Here are 10 signs your boundaries may either be too loose (practically nonexistent) or too rigid (like a stone wall).

1. Difficulty making decisions
2. Excessive fatigue
3. Fear of rejection or abandonment
4. Lost sense of self
5. Guilt
6. Resentful over others' boundaries
7. Passive aggressiveness
8. Oversharing
9. People pleasing
10. Loneliness/Difficulty letting people in

Are you always tired from caring for others instead of yourself?

This doesn’t have to be you anymore. You can decide to what extent you support, help, give, etc to others.

Are you finding yourself not knowing what you truly stand for?

You have the power to learn about yourself and stand up for what you believe in, want, and need.

Are you adamant on people liking you and afraid of their rejection?

This is scary, and maybe you fear abandonment or loneliness… but deep down you know you want to be accepted for who you really are. Not who you portray yourself to be in order to fit in.

We can absolutely get to a healthy place where you have strong boundaries AND have safe, interdependent relationships AND also are a kind person AND also don’t get run over by others.

The first step is knowing and believing this is possible for YOU.

⭐️ Inspiration from Dr. Shemani and MedCircle’s YouTube video “9 Signs of Poor Boundaries”

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