In the journey of life, we often find ourselves yearning for blessings, opportunities, and abundance.

However, despite our earnest desires, we sometimes feel stuck, as if something is obstructing the flow of positivity into our lives.

What if that obstruction is closer than we think? What if, unknowingly, we are the architects of our own barriers?

Let’s take a look into the intricate dynamics of blocking one's blessings, focusing particularly on the people pleaser archetype, and then at ways to break free from this self-imposed limitation.

Signs You're Blocking Your Blessings:

1. Constant Self-Sacrifice: People pleasers have a tendency to put others' needs before their own, often to the detriment of their well-being. While being compassionate and helpful is admirable, constantly sacrificing your own desires and needs can create an imbalance, hindering the flow of blessings into your life.
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2. Difficulty in Receiving: People pleasers often struggle to accept compliments, gifts, or help from others. This reluctance to receive stems from a deep-seated belief that they don't deserve it or fear of appearing selfish. This belief may also stem from unhealthy power dynamics in the past, where things were genuinely held “over their heads,” as if they “owe someone.” Consequently, they inadvertently block the blessings that come their way. We can choose to set boundaries and choose to stand in our truth vs. allowing other’s potential guilt tactics to continue to make us for receiving.
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3. Overextending Yourself: Are you the go-to person for everyone's problems? While being supportive is commendable, overextending yourself leaves little energy for your own growth and fulfillment. This perpetual cycle of giving without replenishing can lead to burnout and blockages in receiving blessings.
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4. Fear of Disappointing Others: Sometimes we fear disappointing or upsetting others, leading us to say yes to commitments we would rather decline. This fear-driven behavior not only undermines authenticity but also blocks opportunities that align with our true desires.
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5. Perfectionism: Striving for perfection is a common trait among people pleasers. While aiming for excellence is admirable, the relentless pursuit of flawlessness can create unrealistic expectations and paralyze progress. This perfectionist mindset can act as a barrier to experiencing blessings in imperfect situations.

Solutions to Unblock Your Blessings:

1. Practice Self-Compassion: Start prioritizing self-care and self-compassion. Recognize that your needs are just as important as others'. Set boundaries and allow yourself to say no without guilt when necessary.
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2. Cultivate Gratitude: Cultivate a mindset of gratitude by acknowledging and appreciating the blessings, big and small, in your life. Practice receiving compliments and gifts graciously, allowing yourself to bask in the joy they bring. When we say no to others’ offerings out of fear (if you know deep down it is a pure hearted offering), we are telling them/the Universe, “I don’t want what positive offering you are trying to give me. I don’t need blessings.” Other people like to be givers sometimes, too and it’s okay to be happy to receive and also allow them to be happy giving to you.
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3. Embrace Imperfection: Let go of the need for perfection and embrace the beauty of imperfection. Understand that mistakes are opportunities for growth and learning, rather than reflections of inadequacy.
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4. Communicate Authentically: Practice assertive communication by expressing your needs, desires, and boundaries authentically. Realize that saying no respectfully is not a rejection but a way of honoring your truth.
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5. Seek Support: Surround yourself with supportive individuals who value and respect your boundaries. Prioritize friendships where there is mutual giving/receiving and deep respect.

Sometimes we find ourselves caught in a web of self-imposed limitations, blocking the blessings that seek to enter our lives.

By recognizing the signs of blocking our own blessings and implementing holistic solutions, we can break free from this cycle of self-sabotage and open ourselves to the abundance that awaits us.

Remember, you are worthy of blessings beyond measure—allow yourself to receive them.

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